Activity 1

Activity 1.
Get yourself a loose-leaf notebook in which to keep a journal and workbook. Allow space between entries to make notes later. Use the journal to write about your first contact with the idea of domination.

Was it in a book? A movie? From a friend? 
I have always ... ALWAYS ... been submissive. I think that I was taught at an early age to be submissive. There are alot of Dominate people in my family. Then when I was married I married an abusive man thinking he would be in charge and dominate but he was really just abusive.  When we divorced I have a friend who was a Dom and he really introduced me to a D/s relationship. Provoking feelings from me I could not understand. I began to unfold like a flower. The more we explored the more I opened up to the idea of domination and NOT abuse.

How did you feel about it then?
At the time I felt dirty. Like there was something wrong with me. My friends were very strong independant women and I actually liked a strong male figure that I could ultimately serve and be on my best behavior for.


How do you feel about it now?
Now it seems clear to me that there was nothing wrong with me at all- that this is how I am made. And although I have not had any training or play time . It is evident to me that this is what life I am supposed to have.

Why do you find it attractive?
It awakens something in me. Makes me feel complete. I have never felt so ...sexy or wanted.

Why do you want to be dominated?
I don't know if this is a want... more like a deep need or ... desire ... When I am not I feel scattered, and incomplete.

What is your goal at the end of this learning process?
I do not know if I have a goal... I mostly interested in learning more about myself and the way that I tick. Hopefully this will help me to find a Dom that fits me and I fit him perfectly.  I want to learn more about serving.

What type of submissive do you think describes you right now?

I am still dicscovering this one about myself.

- These questions can lead to greater understanding of yourself and give you some answers for those master applicants wise enough to ask them of you in the future -

What myths and assumptions about domination do you think you have that might not be based on reality?
One of the biggest myths that I believed has been completely de-mystified. I found that abuse and Domination are NOT the same thing. This was a huge burden lifted from me.  I had chosen partners I beleived were Dominate .. but in actuality were not.

Can you describe your greatest obstacle to finding a dominant partner?
wow great question. Right now it is me... but for reasons that are more of the heart than anything else. I just went through a break up and I am not sure how ready I am . Silly right? I am trying to figure out exactly how to cut him out of my heart and move on.

What assets do you think you bring to such a relationship?
this is an answer I am still working on.


If you meet regularly with like-minded friends, you might want to bring this task to a meeting and ask how others react to the questions above. The best mentoring will come from like minded people who have been in the lifestyle for a while and have experienced the difference between fantasy and reality.

Take the time between now and when we meet to answer the questions. Look your answers over every couple of days and see if you are being honest with yourself with the answer as it is. Do not over think it though, if it rings true then it is good! We can then discuss it at the munch.  You are answering these questions for yourself, not me, so only you will know if the answer is right or wrong. If you have a question about what something means then shoot me an email.